It can be a scary thing to start something new in our lives. Even when we aren't happy with how things are going, the fear of failure or of the unknown can keep us stuck in place. I recently saw a quote that stood out to me by Henry Cloud. He wrote "a full life is one made up of many different experiences, thoughts, goals, distractions, triumphs and failures. If you have to fail, fail at something new, and learn from it." This is what it comes down to many times, to just try something new.
Anxiety will stand in our way with this. It will cause us to think of all the possible scenarios and ways something could go wrong. It will elicit the fear of the unknown or will tell you that you will fail. It will make you want to avoid any sort of change.
During my work as a coach, I have seen this fear of change surface in many clients. They come in wanting to feel different, but when the prospect of change appears, they become anxious and resistant. Ultimately, when you want change in your life, you must decide if your desire to grow and improve is greater than your fear of failing at something new or fear of the unknown. Is the desire to be in a healthy relationship greater than the fear of being alone or starting a new relationship? Is the desire to be in a fulfilling career greater than the fear of leaving the safe but soul-sucking job? These are questions that only you can answer. But if you don't like where you are and feel stuck, the only way to get unstuck is to move by trying something new. If you are ready to take that step, here is a way to get started: