The Importance of hello and goodbye in relationships

​You probably have seen the reaction of a dog when its owner comes home, if not experienced it yourself.  It is as if you are the most important person in the world at that moment, and they haven't seen you in ages. Or maybe you know the feeling when you come home to your young child (this is possibly not the case with a teen child) who melts your heart with a "DAAAAADDDDYYY" and big hug.

Now, think about your reaction when you see your loved one after a long day. Do you greet them with the same reaction? 

Often times, the day can wear us down, and the first thing we think about is getting dinner and plopping down on the couch.  During relationship coaching, I have heard husbands and wives express that they feel their partner cares more about TV, books, hobbies, etc. than them simply because that is the first thing they give their attention to when they come home.  Taking time to celebrate seeing your loved one first thing when you come home can help strengthen your relationship.  This simple gesture shows your partner that they are the most important person at that moment, that you missed them, and that you are excited to see them again no matter how tired you are.

Additionally, when you leave your loved ones when going to work or out the door other times, do you take time to say farewell?  During my time in grief coaching, one of the most difficult things for clients to resolve is the sadness they feel if they didn't get to say a good goodbye, or if their final goodbye was a bad one.  It's difficult to think about, let alone say, but when you leave your loved one for the day, it might be the last time you see them.  If that thought makes you sad, then you can see the importance to express your love each and every time you part ways.  Again, this simple gesture speaks volumes about your love and priorities.  These two actions combined set your relationship as a top priority and gives you two times each day, no matter what else happens or how drained you are by the day, to express your love.